Janardhan Prasad D V S
Nowadays, such suicides by Householder men are becoming common place. Many of such suicides are reported as death due to ill health lest police harassment and / or to avoid post mortem. Men are becoming lonely away form his siblings.
He is left with every duty of the modern Nuclear family in which ( in most of the cases ) He is over stressed. When the wife proves faithless he becomes dejected and commits suicide. It need not be infidelity.
This letter is written by me in TOI, dt 23.3.13. in response to a news item about:
Sanjay Banerjee, Maharashtra ATS DCP, commits suicide in front of wife, children
One called Morpheus replied to my comment like this:
Exactly..... You have said the truth.
The Nuclear family contributes a lot to suicide by Married Men.
It also pushes them into substance abuse, like over-consumption of alcohol, using drugs, extra marital affairs etc. The traditional Indian joint family was the correct way of living as families would have seniors (elderly parents , uncles, aunties etc) who would help the younger couple during any stress in relationships and provide right counselling to the young couples, which prevented the married men to take such steps like suicide. But there used to be a tradeoff for younger couple to able to live in a healthy family like that. They would be always be under the watch of the elders, so they would always required to behave properly and take due permissions from the elders before taking any big decisions which is usually disliked by the women (daughter-in-laws) as they come from outside families and dont like her husband still obeying his parents or elders.
By : Morpheus:
My dear Morpheus, First Thank You for your complement and understanding of the Social phenomenon that is taking place in the society due to break down of Patriarchal family system of India. And I appreciate your depth of Knowledge and Language command on the subject.
The above letter is written by me in reaction to a news item in TOI dt 10.4.13. Techie ends life, names wife, mom-in-law
It is saddening to here such a news. But it is becoming the norm of the day now a days. Generally a Mother in law usually conduct her manoeuvres through her husband in India. May be this is the first time a Mom in law is directly blamed for her Son in law's suicide. Now Indian high tech society has matured enough to reach those levels of the USA. There in the US also M-in law of a son in law is seen as villain. It is said that a prospective Bride groom looks for a girl who has no mother. So India has developed enough in this respect at least.
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